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A friend recommended this exercise as a way to taking a few minutes out of your day, to sit, in a comfortable position and check in with yourself.  Although this is not it’s original purpose, to find more out about that you can read more about the Felt Sense of Comfort exercise in Waking the Tiger, by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D.

Feel the way your body makes contact with the surface that is supporting you.

Sense into your skin and notice the way your clothes feel.

Sense underneath your skin — what sensations are there?
Now, gently remembering these sensations, how do you know that you feel comfortable?  what physical sensations contribute to the over all feeling of comfort?

Does becoming more aware of these sensations make you feel more of less comfortable?  Does this change over time?

Sit for a moment and enjoy the felt sense of feeling comfortable.

Good.

If you take the time to try this, I’m curious to hear about your experiences.  Did you only do it once?  Have you done it several times?  Does anything seem to change the more often you do this exercise?

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Lighthouse and Lexi and are adding Personal Growth Activities (PGAs), that have been collected from various sources.  These are suggestions for activities that you might find helpful in your own journey toward personal development.  We may be posting up to one per month.  We hope you enjoy!

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Here are some articles we liked and thought that you might too:

What Eric Barker thinks, based on some research, we should look for in a marriage partner.  He also wrote another interesting one on why people blame the victim . . ..

An interview by Elle Magazine with Neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine on her new book “The Male Brain,” she has some pretty interesting commentary on male/female communication and aptitude differences, as well as some ways to look at how the sexes know how they are loved, which might help explain some sexual gridlock couples get into.

Jealous much?  While this article is for those in open relationships, Annsley Chapman’s five tips for managing jealousy are great ideas whether you are a one-and-only, or share-the-love-type.

Psyblog tells us ten reasons why we may be more likely to conform.

Eight reasons I’m glad I’m not male in some cultures that have ritualized coming of age.

I don’t know if is remarkable that people were honest in representing themselves [online]” because “the truth draws people in” as the author of this article posits, or if it’s because social networks where your real life friends ARE your virtual friends means more accountability and less room for fibbing without real world consequences.

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Here are some articles we liked, and thought you would to:

Science Daily talks about how the military has started using mindfulness meditation training to help build resilience in troops and reduce the likelihood of PTSD.

J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter novels, gives a compelling commencement address at Harvard talking about the benefits of failure and adversity and the importance of imagination in empathy.  You have the option or watching or reading it.

A great talk about the values behind words and how language can structure our thinking as well as some gifts from adversity.  The talk is given by a woman that is a double amputee.

Even people that are high acheivers sometimes feel like an impostor or fraud and that any day someone just smart enough will figure them out for what they are afraid they are.

The History of the fear of ‘information overload’ it goes further back than today’s fears with facebook, blogging and constant availability of information without a need for memorization.

Frontline brings you a film about how our digital technology is making our lives better, and worse, with Digital Nation.

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